The Most Important Conversations You Have Every Day, Are The Ones You Have With Yourself.

Why is that? Because you believe in anything you tell yourself. Just like if you tell a lie often enough, you will start believing in it. So, if you need to lie to yourself to become a better person then do so, but stop lying to yourself, just to drag yourself down to the dirt. That is just not fair! Negative self talk can be your worst enemy if you are not aware of it and know how to control it and talk yourself out of it. The only one it’s harming is yourself, so stop it. Today. You will only feel better for it. positive-attidtuebad day

Why do we talk ourself down? Or the day or experience we are having? It’s really a very stupid thing to do. So you get up in the morning and the weather is bad and you tell yourself this will be a shit day. You walk to the tram and get wet from the rain and you’re thinking ‘Why did I even get out of bed this morning?’. When you arrive at work, you realise you’re out of coffee and you tell yourself this will be the worst day ever. Seriously. And guess what, with that attitude, it probably will be. It’s like that with everything in life. If you have got a negative attitude towards something, you will not like it, enjoy it, master it or even be bothered with it. Yes, this also applies to eating healthy, exercising and changing your lifestyle. If you keep telling yourself you can’t do it, you’re not worthy or ‘I will fail’, guess what? You will fail. Because you don’t even believe in yourself enough to give yourself a chance. That’s not fair is it?! You usually give everyone around you a chance, don’t you? So it’s only fair that you give yourself a chance as well (or maybe several chances, because we are not likely to succeed on the first try!).

So, pull your chin up, smile and work on the attitude. Tell yourself this will be a great day. It’s raining, great, at least we won’t be out of water anytime soon and I get to wear my new, cool gumboots (double-yay!) on my way to work. Out of coffee?! Best excuse to go buy a nice one at the cafe on the corner and perve at that young hottie that works there too (come on, we all do it!). This will be a great day. I’ll be super productive and get through all my emails before lunch so I have the afternoon off to do (now, write your list of goals for today while you enjoy your fresh, tasty coffee). Ahh, best start to the day ever, now time to get working! can and will

Then after such a productive and happy day at work, you will have the positive energy to go to the gym and cook yourself a nice, healthy dinner too. Because you tell yourself that you can and you will. It’s all in your attitude and it’s all in your mind.  A great man once said; If you tell yourself that you can or you can’t, you are probably right (Henry Ford). Time to start telling yourself you can. I am not a big fan of Personal Development books, because 98% of them are just fluff and you get frustrated reading them. But if you are planning on reading one PD book this year, let it be one that focuses on self talk. Because if you change the conversations you are having with yourself every day, you can achieve anything you want. Because you start believing in yourself. And it’s only when you believe in yourself that you can change.

Lucky people aren’t lucky, they just take the opportunities that are put in front of them. Happy people aren’t happy because everything around them is perfect, but because they choose to see the positive in every situation. They see the glass as half full. They see change as something good. They see obstacles as challenges, not problems.  positive-attitude

Ok, you get it right? Because I could probably keep going for a good hour with quotes about positive attitudes (but I don’t really like quotes that much, so I rather not) to rub it in. Have a look at the pretty pictures instead. I like pictures. They make me smile. And if you are smiling, you have come a long way to changing your day from a shit one to a great one, and your attitude from a negative one to a bright and shiny one. Keep smiling 🙂


happy people

I can do it











positive who you are

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8 Responses to The Most Important Conversations You Have Every Day, Are The Ones You Have With Yourself.

  1. Great post. I was thinking about that Henry Ford quote halfway through reading and all of a sudden it appeared in your next paragraph!
    I love that handstand picture. I am working on doing those.

  2. Renee says:

    I absolutely love this post, and I definitely needed it. I was having “one of those days” yesterday where all I did was talk negatively to myself about all the things going on in my life that I’m not happy with. Instead of focusing on the good and choosing to make the best of things (like I do on most days), I just COULD not get out of my negative thought world. This is something I definitely need to work on and have strategies to get myself out of that bad place when I get there. Thank you for this 🙂

  3. This is a really good article! 🙂
    I really enjoyed reading it, and the little pictures made me chuckle. 😀
    Thank you so much, this is something I must try as I tend to talk myself down alot. ><

  4. This reminded me of one of the Derren Brown shows where he was forcing all of these ‘lucky’ opportunities right under the nose of someone who considered himself unlucky. The person was so set in their thinking that they were unlucky that they couldn’t even see the opportunities right in front of them! It’s amazing what our internal monologue can do.

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