Why is that? Because you believe in anything you tell yourself. Just like if you tell a lie often enough, you will start believing in it. So, if you need to lie to yourself to become a better person then do so, but stop lying to yourself, just to drag yourself down to the dirt. That is just not fair! Negative self talk can be your worst enemy if you are not aware of it and know how to control it and talk yourself out of it. The only one it’s harming is yourself, so stop it. Today. You will only feel better for it.
Why do we talk ourself down? Or the day or experience we are having? It’s really a very stupid thing to do. So you get up in the morning and the weather is bad and you tell yourself this will be a shit day. You walk to the tram and get wet from the rain and you’re thinking ‘Why did I even get out of bed this morning?’. When you arrive at work, you realise you’re out of coffee and you tell yourself this will be the worst day ever. Seriously. And guess what, with that attitude, it probably will be. It’s like that with everything in life. If you have got a negative attitude towards something, you will not like it, enjoy it, master it or even be bothered with it. Yes, this also applies to eating healthy, exercising and changing your lifestyle. If you keep telling yourself you can’t do it, you’re not worthy or ‘I will fail’, guess what? You will fail. Because you don’t even believe in yourself enough to give yourself a chance. That’s not fair is it?! You usually give everyone around you a chance, don’t you? So it’s only fair that you give yourself a chance as well (or maybe several chances, because we are not likely to succeed on the first try!).
So, pull your chin up, smile and work on the attitude. Tell yourself this will be a great day. It’s raining, great, at least we won’t be out of water anytime soon and I get to wear my new, cool gumboots (double-yay!) on my way to work. Out of coffee?! Best excuse to go buy a nice one at the cafe on the corner and perve at that young hottie that works there too (come on, we all do it!). This will be a great day. I’ll be super productive and get through all my emails before lunch so I have the afternoon off to do (now, write your list of goals for today while you enjoy your fresh, tasty coffee). Ahh, best start to the day ever, now time to get working!
Then after such a productive and happy day at work, you will have the positive energy to go to the gym and cook yourself a nice, healthy dinner too. Because you tell yourself that you can and you will. It’s all in your attitude and it’s all in your mind. A great man once said; If you tell yourself that you can or you can’t, you are probably right (Henry Ford). Time to start telling yourself you can. I am not a big fan of Personal Development books, because 98% of them are just fluff and you get frustrated reading them. But if you are planning on reading one PD book this year, let it be one that focuses on self talk. Because if you change the conversations you are having with yourself every day, you can achieve anything you want. Because you start believing in yourself. And it’s only when you believe in yourself that you can change.
Lucky people aren’t lucky, they just take the opportunities that are put in front of them. Happy people aren’t happy because everything around them is perfect, but because they choose to see the positive in every situation. They see the glass as half full. They see change as something good. They see obstacles as challenges, not problems.
Ok, you get it right? Because I could probably keep going for a good hour with quotes about positive attitudes (but I don’t really like quotes that much, so I rather not) to rub it in. Have a look at the pretty pictures instead. I like pictures. They make me smile. And if you are smiling, you have come a long way to changing your day from a shit one to a great one, and your attitude from a negative one to a bright and shiny one. Keep smiling 🙂