Friday is here and I know many of you are just thinking TGIF (which reminds me I haven’t been to TGI Friday’s for yeeeeaaaaars.. mmmm, potato skins filled with cheese…) and are just trying to get through that last day of pain before it’s all pleasure for two days. Why I wonder? I hear so many people complaining about their job, whining about their boss, the hours, the pay or just generally how bored they are. Yet they stay for years on end without doing anything about it. Do people just like being miserable or have they got other issues?
I think they are just too comfortable. You know, it’s just easier like that. It’s too hard changing or looking for a new job. Maybe they’re even thinking ‘I should be happy, this is a good job. It’s me that it’s something wrong with’ and just stay on to see if anything changes. In the same way that so many people stay in bad or average relationships, just because they’re hoping something will change one day. One day, in the future sometime. Maybe. Hopefully at least. But you know what, in 99% of these jobs and relationships, nothing changes. Nothing moves forward, nothing gets better. Until YOU decide to make a change for yourself. Because if you sit back and hope that something will change or someone will come and rescue you, I have a surprise for you; everyone is looking out for themselves and they don’t care about you. You have to take responsibility for your own happiness (just in the same way as you need to take responsibility for your own health and in many ways these two things are heavily linked) and if you are not happy, no one else than you can do something about it.
I don’t mean that we all have to have jobs that we love so much we would rather be at work than spend time with our friends and family. But wouldn’t it be nice if you had a job you enjoyed doing, that challenged you to the level you like it to and that you don’t dread going to every day? Thankfully we are all different and not everyone wants a job with lots of responsibility. Some people are good with money and numbers, others prefer working with people. You just need to find what makes you happy. But in most cases, if you have a job that is ok, pays ok and you are ok with going there, you will never change. Because you are too comfortable and see no reason to change. But then, stop talking about how bad it is, because if you have no intention of making a change, no one wants to hear about how terrible your life is.
Take a leaf from Michael Jackson “If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and then make a change.” You know, one day you will wake up and it will be too late to do all the things that you said you wanted to do. You’ll be 60-70 years old and looking back at your life thinking; why didn’t I do that? A wise man once said you’ll never regret the things you did, but you will always regret the things you didn’t do. So, get up, make up your mind and do the things you love. Today. Because tomorrow it might be too late. And I don’t mean that you should leave your job today, because you’re not sure if it makes you happy or not. Take some time this weekend to think about what YOU want in life. Not what your boss wants for you (that means what he can gain from you working for him) or what your girlfriend wants from you (if 2 kids, Volvo, house with a garden, a cat and a parrot is not on your list, maybe you need to talk?!) or what your mum wants from you (yes, she did give birth to you, that doesn’t mean she has the right to rule over your life). What do YOU want? Write it down (if you need inspiration, download ‘The Bucket List’ and watch it) and get started. You are responsible for you own happiness.
That’s my Friday morning thoughts. And as a very wise and unfortunately very old and sick man once said
“It always seems impossible until it’s done.” Nelson Mandela.
He actually said quite a few wise things, so here is another few quotes for your Friday (I am not really a big fan of quotes, but I am a big fan of Nelson Mandela);
“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.”
“One of the things I learned when I was negotiating was that until I changed myself, I could not change others.”
“Once a person is determined to help themselves, there is nothing that can stop them.”
Now that’s enough. Happy Friday. Remember it’s up to you to be healthy and happy. Start today. I’m going for a run along the beach 🙂